Keeping a healthy marriage is usually a work in progress; especially with the added mix of in-laws enter in the picture. Getting a green card from your partner’s parents would be frosting on your cake.
You might strike a wonderful relationship with your in-laws and end up being a big hit with them; or things might not be as rosy and you might end up making a hash of things.
In order to keep the peace in your relationship and work on making it a healthy marriage, creating a successful relationship with your in-laws is essential. Here are a few tips to help please the in-laws.
Find the positives
Not every couple is lucky enough to have a great relationship with their in-laws. A majority of the time, your spouse’s parents might be openly brazen and discredit you as a viable partner for their child.
Regardless of what they might think of you, retain your integrity and continue to be the charmer that you naturally are. Focus on the positives you see in your in-laws’ personality and build from that. They will soon learn to love and accept you for who you are, if you are honest and sincere with them.
Let your in-laws know you appreciate them, and openly accept them as part of your family. Make kind gestures in return to their overtures. Send across a card, an email or send a message letting them know you appreciate their thoughtfulness.
This will not only score you brownie points with your spouse, but also garner respect from your in-laws as well. It’s best to have things peaceable and hunky-dory in a healthy marriage, especially where in-laws are concerned.
Keep cool and civil
It’s a fact commonly understood that when a couple marries, they marry into their spouse’s family as well. This may be a good thing, though at times might turn out horribly wrong for you.
In order to keep your spouse happy and continue with a healthy marriage, let slide the many eccentricities or intricacies of personality that might come along with the in-law bundle.
The ability to continue being courteous and accommodating in the face of difficult situations with your in-laws; will show how much you really care for your spouse and their peace of mind.
Several occasions and family gatherings might call for situations that might raise conflicts. Circumstances as such should be dealt with intelligently and constructively. Families are usually accommodating. Opening your house and hearts to your spouse’s family is good, though it is important to set viable boundaries with them, so you’re not taken undue advantage of.
An important aspect in any healthy marriage, maintaining a comfortable relationship with the in-laws is imperative. Some folk have it easy with healthy parents for in-laws, while others have a more chewy plate to deal with tough characters for in-laws.
All things considered, it’s best to work on establishing a congenial relationship with the in-laws and make it a positive and beneficial experience for all.