Visualize this: a five year old crying in the middle of street for a toy that has caught his fancy. Is that an every-day-scenario for you? Being a parent is hard, especially when your children don’t go a day without crying out loud or throwing tantrums. But your kids have the liberty to do that because after all they are kids. But you cannot go the same stubborn way to make them understand the rights and wrongs. Being a parent, you will have to come up with ways that will help you in dealing with your little troublemakers in the right manner. Good parenting takes time but is definitely worth the wait.
What do you need to do to be a good parent?
Perhaps one of the sweetest moments in life is to watch your menace creating kids grow up into sensible individuals. Of course this whole journey is not going to be easy. But you can do your best in ensuring that by dealing with your children in the right way.
Be a role model
Your kids learn from most of the things that you do. Parents have a very major influence on kids. So what you do, what you eat, how you talk, everything affects your kids. Your kids tend to imitate you. They learn the way of living from you. So to ensure that you are doing your parenting part properly, well, you will have to be a good role model. Teach your kids the way of life by being a positive person. This will help to a great extent in making them understand life and dealing with it much better.
Your love is what they need
This one is a no-brainer. You need to show your love and affection to your child constantly. Children are hungry for love and will go wherever they get it. So make them feel loved, tell them how much you care about them and they will try to make sure that your love stays intact for them. They will see to it that they do not do anything that will hurt your feelings. This does not mean you infuse fear in them. That will only spoil things. There is a difference between love, respect and fear. You need to understand that to be a good parent.
One common parenting mistake is that most parents end up substituting their love with material possession, leniency and lowered expectations. This is not the way to go. Be there for your child when he/she needs you, everything else does not really matter.
Give them independence
Most parents believe that they need to be following their kids 24*7 to ensure that they are safe. Of course children are naive and need to be protected. But wouldn’t it be great if you made them self- dependent enough? If you prepare them for situations that demand them to behave smartly? Making them independent enough will help them in getting ready for the bigger challenges in life. Another parenting mistake is when parents mistake the independence of their children as disobedience or rebellion. Understand your children and they too will understand you back.
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