So, your vacation time is fast approaching and if you are thinking about where to go, there is a whole world out there to invite you. If you are yearning to visit an international location or to a place that you have not previously visited, but suddenly you are getting an unsecured feeling about the trip and a negative thought comes to your mind about the things that will happen during your trip. This is not something to worry. It is just the anxiousness that is faced by many first-time and even experienced travelers. But, this anxiousness and fear can be avoided with proper planning and here are some tips to overcome travel anxiety issues: Continue reading “Overcoming Travel Anxiety Issues”
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Experts point out performance anxieties as fire alarms and even though, they appear to exist outside us, they are in fact the projections of something that had happened to us during our childhood days. Here are some tips on how to fight against these past recollections, in such a way that they can be prevented from taking influence of our present lives:
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A report was submitted by the school district officials of the state of Oklahoma that the third-graders in the district, experienced panic attacks, anxiety issues and some of them cried, while some became physically ill, when they came to know that they will have to take up a state-mandated reading test. Also, encouragement was given by parents and teachers to comfort the children and they took the responsibility of lifting the students, who were preparing for the test for the first time.
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Many of us have traveling as our hobby. Even though, we take up several trips and we plan our journey to different world locations very frequently, most of us experience stress when it comes to planning for the trip. If you have been looking forward for your dream trip for several months now, but when the date of the trip arrives closer, you begin feeling unsure about your decision. This is not the time to worry, but it is the time to enjoy your forthcoming trip, so relax yourself and pre-planning can make things fall in the right place. Even, an experienced traveler gets nervous before an extended journey or a solo trip. You are not the only person experiencing this feeling, relax yourself and take a deep breath and take a loot at the following suggestions to combat anxiety issues associated with managing your pre-trip days: Continue reading “Managing Pre-Trip Anxiety Issues”
A record shows that there are many reasons why Americans are stressed at a higher rate in the recent years. Some reasons like economic collapse, increasing unemployment rates, wiped-out savings, home foreclosure, terrorist attacks, illness or loss of a family member can be stated for these stressful situations. These stressful situations can lead to anxiety issues that is known to affect nearly 40 million adults in the United States. Nearly one out of every five people face stressful situations in their lives according to the record submitted by the National Institute of Mental Health. When this is the case of adults, one out of every eight children is also affected by mental health issues. Continue reading “Holistic Treatment for Anxiety Issues Being Favored”
Anxiety is a condition that affects many people at least once in their lifetime. When anxiety occurs again and again, people realize that it is important to get medical help. They begin to think whether medication or psychological treatments can help them get out of the anxiety issues that are disturbing them often. Even though, some people get medical help and act as per the guidance of the health care provider, many of them worry whether therapy can work or taking up the right drugs is a good idea. Continue reading “Anxiety Issues Increasing Among People”
Maybe it’s time we demystified the idea of the perfect mom. Yes, many moms totally rock. If you have one, this post is not for you. This one’s for those who somehow ended up doing her job.
Working with clients, my perception of mothers has broadened to include not just imperfection, but downright abuse. What’s more typical than the extreme; however, is the truth that many children are tapped to “mother” their own parent. In psychology, we call this responsible offspring the “parentified child.” It’s not a role any child would knowingly take on. It just happens because a child is better qualified to “mother” than his or her mom.
These dutiful, talented kids have honed their skills of mothering and caretaking to the point that one or both parents lean on them to keep the household together. But wait! Who takes care of the kids if the kids are taking care of the parents? Attention, parentified kiddos- you must parent yourself. True, it’s not fair. It’s not functional. And yet, it’s real. Many children sacrifice their own childhoods to take care of business, unaware that they have accepted a role that’s codependent and hard to shake. Capable and giving, they meet the needs of their parents while their own needs go unmet. And, in most cases, they have no other choice. The alternative is chaos.
So what can children who are subtly used to serve their elders do about it? Perhaps learn about codependence and resign from the job of fixing broken family members. The right psychotherapist can help a son or daughter break bad patterns, so they can begin to use those well honed skills to take care of themselves.
If this sounds familiar, I invite you to parent yourself. Pour that nurturing warmth on yourself. Chances are, if your mom wasn’t able to be June Cleaver, she isn’t going to miraculously transform. So go ahead and accept her limitations and love her anyway. But first and foremost, LOVE the heck out of yourself. Here are 3 ways- but this is just a start:
1. Know your worth. You are extraordinary. You are valuable. You are loveable. Don’t wait for anyone to tell you this. If a parent didn’t, they screwed up. You must tell yourself that you are enough and do so until it sinks in.
2. Consider the qualities of a mother that you crave. Nurturing. Support. And that pervasive fantasy of “unconditional love.” Now flood yourself with those. How can you make yourself feel safe? Protected? Are you on board with your own dreams? Do you love yourself no matter what? I believe “unconditional love” is a spiritual thing. Your true parent, Infinite Source, offers unlimited love. And you can be that fountain of love for yourself, too.
3. Forgive your mom for hijacking your childhood to save herself. Forgive yourself for unwittingly complying. Investigate the ways your relationship is healthy. Build upon those. Take an honest look at the ways your relationship is unhealthy. Begin to gently correct course. Look at your own needs. Meet them. And keep loving her while you love yourself, first.
Happy Mother’s Day to a whole bunch of folks who will never get the title they deserve.
ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) is hard to diagnose or is made complicated when accompanied by an anxiety disorder. Anxiety disorders like Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), claustrophobia and agoraphobia can be observed in patients who have been diagnosed with ADHD. It has been found that nearly half the population of adults suffering from ADHD are prone to suffer from an anxiety disorder that considerably impairs their ability to function. Continue reading “When ADHD Is Complicated By Anxiety Issues”
In a world that is too busy to find time for long therapy sessions , a smartphone game that works to significantly reduce the anxiety levels in individuals prone to stressful situations can possibly be the best treatment strategy. According to a journal report by the Association for Psychological Science, mobile gaming applications can considerably reduce anxiety levels in a stressed individual within twenty five minutes of playing it. This game can be hooked up with stress measuring devices so that an individual can be pinged to play the game if a rise in stress levels is indicated by the device. Continue reading “Smartphone Game for Dealing with Anxiety Issues”
Youngsters going through their teen years can be a little temperamental with all the changes that they experience during this phase. The pubertal changes can be a challenging time for a teenager as the transition from childhood to adulthood is often fraught with identity crisis and rebelliousness. Continue reading “Recognizing and Handling Teen Anxiety”