Generally, in stores you can find wonderful heart shaped gift boxes right from the beginning of January for providing the opportunity for couples to find great gifts for the forthcoming Valentine’s day. Also, television ads for jewelries as gifts for the day also began to be telecasted well in advance to provide the opportunity for the men to find an attractive jewelry for their lovable woman to celebrate the wonderful day. If you are in love, you will feel the pressure of finding the right gift for your lovable person, which most people in relationships face. Continue reading “Relationships Issue: Pressure of V Day”
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If you think that love is enough to keep relationships strong, you are pathetically wrong. The fact is that there cannot be anything more difficult than maintaining relationships. You should therefore learn what ingredients are required for keeping your relationship strong. A study says that women do not hesitate to seek help if relationships with their male partners go wrong. But, men have a long way to go in learning to seek help. Continue reading “Ingredients for Keeping Your Relationships Strong”
Healthy Marriages and Children
A happy family has now become a rare phenomenon. Yet, it is not extinct and can be revived, with the help of a few attitude adjustments. Children from such families tend to be happier, normal, and achieve good grades in school. Such children have a higher standard of living and have few attitudinal issues in general. They are also known to be less abused, as compared to children from broken families. However, relationships are complicated everywhere. So it is not very wise to make any generalizations. Even children from happy families have issues of identity crisis. Children from other structures of families may end up having a good career and relationships. Children are very quick to pick up on their parents’ behavior. So, you have to careful about what type of behavior you show them.
Talk to your children about healthy marriages
You may discuss a number of things with your child, from the importance of education and independence to even movies which release every week, but you must also educate your child about the importance of a healthy marriage. Your child may be a good human being, but he must realize the importance of a partner in life. Your child must be willing to step out of his or her comfort zone of individuality. If you start putting this thought into their mind at a young age, they will get molded to the idea faster than if you begin in their teens or when they are of a marriageable age.
By the time your children hit the teens they form a strong sense of self and are cozy in their bubble of independence. Do not hesitate to provide a bit of sex education also as part of your discussion. Boys must know that having sex is huge deal and that they should be ready for the responsibility and consequences. Girl children must be taught the value of a girl attaching dignity to the family.
Lead by inspiration
Children pick on actions faster than verbal lecture. For example, if you want to explain to your child the importance of taking care of or being in charge of someone else, instead of lecturing them about the same, you could get them a pet dog. You should teach them to take care of the dog’s eating schedule, bathing it, taking it out to play, and keeping it happy. This will teach the child about taking care of loved ones, who are dependent on them.
Communication is helpful but not as inspiring as real life action. Be practical in your approach – do not give them false hope about life. Teach them how every day can be a struggle, but they have to be strong individuals and deal with life as it comes. Teach them how to make good decisions, as decisions form their destiny and are important for a healthy marriage. Be an authoritative parent, as opposed to an authoritarian one – every decision you take for your children, you must explain to them the hidden agenda behind it. This helps the child get peace of mind, as opposed to restlessness and rebellious feelings.
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Do You Think You Need Couple’s Counseling?
Married couples often face adjustment issues. It is only natural to come across issues in an institution like marriage. It is a societal norm, which you are bound to adhere to so as to be accepted, and more importantly, to carry your family name forward. Marriage is a big responsibility for both partners and it is only natural to doubt that most important choice of your life. You may even think of separation, just because you want end your misery for good. This is where couple’s counseling is helpful.
Why should you undergo counselling?
There are many times when you hope that things get better on their own, between you and your partner. But, in some cases, things only get worse owing to compatibility issues or other family problems. When you face the issues mentioned below, then it is time to see a counsellor.
- – Inappropriate communication: There are occasions where you speak very rudely to your partner, or vice versa. In either of the situations, the partner at the receiving end is hurt and shattered. He or she cannot think of a single reason as to why you got yourself involved with someone who does not care about your feelings. In such a situation, it is best to see a counsellor, as opposed to putting up with the constant hue and cry at home.
- – Extramarital affairs: With growing stress levels and less communication on a daily basis, spouses look for happiness elsewhere. It is ethically immoral and speaks volumes of your character, to be disloyal to your partner. Once you discover that your partner has had an affair, or is having one, it is bound to humiliate you. You may not even want to have a dialogue with your partner. This might be a good time to consult a counsellor and seek advice regarding whether your relationship is worth investing in anymore or not.
- – Coexistence: There are certain points in a marriage where, you feel you are at a standstill. You may think of your spouse as a roommate, who is a part of almost everything you do at home. This could be due to lack of intimacy or common interests, which you can enjoy together. This is a good reason to see a counsellor. You need to reignite a spark in your life, which will help you overcome stagnancy from your marriage.
- – Temporary separation: There are occasions where your marriage comes to a halt, and it could lead to a temporary separation. Usually, these situations occur when you have a major fight, which you are unable to resolve at both ends. Then it is time to see a counsellor. It is not advisable to continue the relationship without any incentive of getting back together. You must seek professional help and try to save your marriage.
There are many occasions when you don’t want to work any more on your relationship, or when you stick around only for the sake of your children. But relationship issues always work out if dealt with maturity.
We offer both couple’s counseling and couple’s workshops.